Share a Tip: Do You Get Jealous Of Other Mom Bloggers?

January 17, 2009 by Kelly 

I received a very compelling email today and I’m going to use it as our next ‘Tip’ gathering opportunity.

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Our reader, who wishes to remain anonymous, asks this:

“Kelly, I was listening to this week’s episode of Profitable Mommy Blogging and while I really enjoyed the content, I was actually left feeling sort of down. It’s obvious that the mom you interviewed is a really successful mom blogger. I see mom bloggers like her who reach thousands of readers every day and I get more than a little jealous. I know that’s dumb but I can’t help it. I feel like I work so hard and see little results. How do I get past the jealousy? It almost makes me want to quit.”

She’s referring to my interview with Jennifer James of Mom Bloggers Club. Jennifer is a successful mom blogger and I think a lot of other mom bloggers are looking up to her so I totally understand.

Admiring someone and aspiring to their level of success is great. I think it’s easy to slip past that into a touch of jealousy - but it sounds like this reader realizes that she’s got a serious bite from the green eyed monster.

Do you have some advice for her?

If you have experienced blogger jealousy, how did you deal with it?

We’ll keep the post open for tips and advice until Monday at midnight.

As always, we’ll choose one tipster at random for a $25.00 PayPal thank you :)

Edited to add: Congratulations Erin, winner of our $25 tip!

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21 Responses to “Share a Tip: Do You Get Jealous Of Other Mom Bloggers?”

  1. Genesis on January 17th, 2009 2:04 am

    I have to admit, I`ve been there. What I do, though, is use that jealousy to spur me to work even HARDER. You can study what a successful mom blogger does, how often she posts, where else she`s active online, etc. and then emulate it. It can be really good motivation.

  2. Party Plan Pat on January 17th, 2009 2:19 am

    Well truth is we all get that feeling at some point in time.

    Key To Blogging Success:

    Any mother who decides to have children knows this will be a labour of love. Sometimes it will take up to 20 years for you to look back as see just how awesome it was being a mom and the good that came out of it as you see your little one soar and live a very fulfilling life. Now do have to wait 20 years for your blog to get there no, but it is a labor of love.

    I notice you say work hard and see little results. What is your definition of hard work ad results? I have had my blog for 6 months I believe…and what I know for certain (and something we women tend to struggle with) is don’t compare yourself with others. Maybe you have 3 readers, but 3 readers who keep coming back is better that 100 passers by! BTW, I average in traffic what many wish they had! (Not bragging just saying, you are probably doing better than you think)!

    Consistency is the key, never tire of doing good. Your blog is your third fourth, fifth child. How many times do we tell those little people to wash their hands. 20-40 times a day I am sure, and yet everyday you keep at it until they do it on their own!

    Often times when I find people struggling, it is because they are not asking for help. Have you asked for help from someone who is where you want to be? Remember each step is a stepping stone. Success does not happen overnight, but one night success does happen!

    Lastly…get over it! Focus on what you need to get done.
    I’d be happy to look over your blog and see what’s up!

    Party Plan Pat´s last blog post..Sign of the times: Gold Home Parties

  3. Lexi on January 17th, 2009 2:20 am

    I know exactly how you feel! Instead of letting the jealousy get me down,n
    I analyze what makes a blogger successful and learn from her example. I also always let bloggers I admire know that I appreciate their work. Whatever you do, be yourself and remember that your time will come.

  4. Courtney on January 17th, 2009 3:10 am

    I think we have all been there at some point and at very degrees. If your blog is in the same niche ask if you can do a guest post and/or create a relationship with the successful blogger. Just make sure you turn that jealous energy into something positive.

    Courtney´s last blog post..one of eight home exterior paint jobs or the Grand Prize home improvement package worth $20,000

  5. Katrine on January 17th, 2009 3:12 am

    It goes back to that lesson in life everyone has to learn. In fact I have to learn it over and over again. That is do not compare yourself to others. We should rejoice in other people’s success, and learn from them. This applies not only to blogging but many things in life. This isn’t really a tip just some advice my mom told me and I tell my own daughter.

    Katrine´s last blog post..My Word For The Year

  6. Heather {Girly Blog Designz} on January 17th, 2009 4:02 am

    Wow, there are already so many great tips. I’m not sure I can add onto them, except look at more of what you are jealous of. If you are jealous because the other mommy blogger has a lot of traffic then turn getting more traffic into your focus.

    I know my jealousy comes with the blogs that have THOUSANDS of comments, lol! I am often wondering how do they get SO many comments? But when that happens I do like these ladies suggested, learn from those bloggers and see what they are doing and try to bring that kind of success to my blog. :)
    Heather {Girly Blog Designz}´s last blog post..Website for Sale: Crafty Mom Blog

  7. Stephanie on January 17th, 2009 1:18 pm

    I can relate to what you are saying. I am sure we all have felt pangs of jealousy in this arena!

    There is a lot of good advice here already! I would just like to add that blogging should be a fun and creative outlet. You should enjoy it whether or not you have any visitors or comments at all!

    Stephanie´s last blog post..Thrift Store Locater

  8. Jennifer James on January 17th, 2009 4:44 pm

    One of the things you must learn about blogging is that you can’t let jealousy paralyze you from doing your thing. Concentrate on being you. Do you! There are mom bloggers who are way bigger than me — lots of them. In fact, there are always going to be people better than you in life. It’s important for you to concentrate on doing what you do best.

    Jealousy stems from being wrapped up in self. Be happy for everyone, trust in your abilities, and move forward.

    Jennifer James´s last blog post..Lung cancer? Do you know anyone with lung cancer?

  9. The Traveling Saleswoman on January 18th, 2009 12:51 am

    I think if your purpose for having a blog is to make money/be famous/have a large readership, then you’re doing it for the wrong reasons. I don’t believe hat many of the successful bloggers that you’re feeling jealousy towards have that as a goal for why they blog.

    Instead, focus on writing about a subject you’re passionate about. Provide useful information in a fun and positive way. Focus on building relationships with others in the blogging/social media world. Don’t look at what’s in it for you, look at how you can help and educate others. Then I believe that people will see that authenticity and pass on the word, and success will follow.

    Good luck!

    The Traveling Saleswoman´s last blog post..Simple isn’t easy

  10. Mary Lutz on January 19th, 2009 3:37 am

    So many great tips with awesome advice that we could all probably use a piece of! I know I am going to follow it!

    I would only add to all these words of wisdom to get an eBook or sign up for an ecourse on getting traffic to your website. I would get one from an expert mom blogger, one who has done it and is doing it, like Alice Seba our Internet Marketing Sweetie!

    When you are starting or building a business you should expect to invest some money for training and education. I can’t think of a better investment than educating yourself to build your business!

    Mary Lutz´s last blog post..70% off at PacSun and Free Shipping with $50 purchase!

  11. Christine on January 19th, 2009 7:00 am

    I think the one thing that I would add specifically is talk to that blogger directly. The one great thing about social media is the accessibility. Jennifer James is very easy to talk to, if you sing up for Mom Bloggers Club and follow her on twitter, then you’ll get to talk with her. She may not get back to you right away, but she’ll get back.

    I’m pretty sure that all of the “celebrity” bloggers are still just humans, so they understand where we’re all coming from. They’ve been there and done that themselves and are very nice people to talk to.

    Great question though!

    Christine´s last blog post..Hot Topics In Homeschooling

  12. Erin on January 19th, 2009 7:04 am

    I was never jealous per say of other bloggers, I was “INSPIRED.” I saw the hard work, dedication, and quality they were putting into their posts and it pushed me to do better. I am not jealous of other bloggers, I know my blog will get there someday if I keep pushing on.

    I was really inspired by the Mom’s doing the reviews about a month ago. How cool is it to get things for free as long as you write a post on your opinion? Well about 50 pitch emails later I have already have a pile of products sitting her next to me, just waiting for me to tell the blog world my opinion on, and about a dozen or so still on the way. The fact is that if you want it, you can do it. Jealousy wont get you anything, but inspiration will!

    Turn that jealousy into inspiration! Love something someone did on their blog so much you feel the envy coming on? Send them a nice message asking how they did that, or tell them you want to do the same thing, can they give any tips.

    There are so many resources out there! Use them! I promise you, have faith in yourself, faith in your blog and you will succeed! Reaching out and networking is your best resource in blogging! I’d be happy to help you any way I can! Good Luck!

    ~Erin
    Twitter: @erinjeany
    ejsmomej[at]gmail[dot]com
    http://ejsmomej.blogspot.com/

    Erin´s last blog post..Patriotism

  13. Cindi ~ Moomettesgram on January 19th, 2009 7:13 am

    I think we’ve all been there at one point or another. I’m simply amazed at the quantity and qualify of comments that so many bloggers receive. While I’ve been blogging since the end of 2007, I’ve seen new bloggers come on the scene and their following is tremendous, and the comments just keep mounting up!

    How do they do it? Yet, I just keep plugging along, follow everyone’s sage advice to keep tweeking my blog and techniques, and continue to write for the sheer joy of sharing information with everyone and hoping my reader(s) will find it helpful!

    Cindi ~ Moomettesgram´s last blog post..Bonanzle ~ WAHM Ventures Into New Online Marketplace ~

  14. Dee Dee on January 19th, 2009 8:37 am

    Not much left to say. I think it has been covered. Turn that negative into a positive. Emulate successful people if you want to be successful, but define success before you seek after it. I think to be a successful blogger you must network. And I don’t think anyone would tell you it is easy. Not at all like Field of Dreams - “If you build it they will come” is a fantasy. The more you connect with others, the more likely they are going to be avid followers. Content is important, but you have to get it exposed. My daughter is launching her cottage industry into the www and I have put in countless hours (most through the night) to get exposure for her site. Jealousy won’t hurt anybody but the person who harbors it. Look inside yourself, and determine to do what it takes instead of feel sorry for yourself.

  15. Dawnaurora on January 19th, 2009 11:49 am

    Honestly I get a little jealous, but it isn’t a paralyzing, green type of jealousy. It is more an inspirational type of jealousy. They give me quite a bit more incentive to work smarter and not harder. They provide me more incentive to crawl out of my comfort zone to try more things out, for example, interviews with others, adding video in my blog and more.

    Dawnaurora´s last blog post..Hershey Kisses Chunky Votive Valentine’s Candle

  16. Vintage Mommy on January 19th, 2009 11:30 pm

    I’ve been there too! I love getting comments and when I see blogs with dozens of them, I’m envious.

    I think Jennifer J gave the best advice above: “do you”! I see lots of successful blogs but their style is just not me, and I believe I can make a little spending money (eventually) by doing my own thing.

    Vintage Mommy´s last blog post..Show and Tell: A New Look

  17. Tishia Lee on January 20th, 2009 6:31 pm

    Initially I was going to say no I’ve never had the jealousy thing but I think that’s not true. I stop and think about the times I’ve heard interviews or saw people ‘talking’ about income they’ve made with their blog and a twinge of jealousy has washed over me.

    But….I also know that I don’t have a right to be jealous because I’m not doing anything to monetize my blog which hello if you aren’t monetizing it how can you expect to make money? LOL

    So my advice? There isn’t much I can say that hasn’t already been covered. It’s all about putting forth the time and effort of learning how to monetize things. There are ecourses, ebooks, etc. Read the successful blogs and start to learn the things they do. And of course stay positive and don’t give up :-)
    Tishia Lee´s last blog post..History is Being Made - Inauguration of Barack Obama

  18. Stefanie on January 20th, 2009 7:23 pm

    There are so many comments already, I will make it short and sweet. I keep notebooks. Not on the computer, but next to my laptop. When I am listening or reading success stories, especially if they make me get a feeling of HOLY COW (or jealousy) I start taking notes.

    Then, I apply it, then or later, to what I can do to help my blog or product. Sometimes those times of jealousy give you the best notes. You realize they are doing something that you aren’t and you can tweak it to work for you.

    Good luck, we are all human. :)

    Stef

    Stefanie´s last blog post..Slang and social media

  19. Peggy on January 21st, 2009 12:34 am

    I’ve been there too.

    Then I think, hmmm…. I wonder if Jennifer James ever felt jealous of other bloggers when she first started?

    That makes me feel better. :)

    Peggy

  20. Carrie on January 23rd, 2009 9:47 pm

    I used to feel a twinge of envy and even wrote an article on the topic (see link above) for Alice Seba’s blog.

    Mostly I focus on making my own “home” awesome instead of getting stuck. For every blogger I am envious of, there are probably a HUNDRED that envy me. Sometimes I hear from them!

    Yes - what the others said - be yourself, LEARN from awesome bloggers, keep blogging daily and you will get there!

    Carrie´s last blog post..Getting Affiliates Working for You: The Power of Consistency

  21. Carrie on January 23rd, 2009 9:47 pm

    Oops, the blog linked above is not mine, it’s Alice’s. LOL! Just so noone thinks I’m trying to claim it. ;)
    Carrie´s last blog post..Making Money as a Ghostwriter

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